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The Official Seal Of The 
Phenomenal Women Of The Web - Against Domestic 

Domestic Violence

A list of questions to ask yourself
Are you a Victim? 

Often times one wonders if they are a victim, others never question or think of themselves as a victim. Please take a few minutes to answer the following questions, for both you and/or a friend. Be honest with your answers, no one will know the answers but you. If you answer yes to more than one of these question please pick up the telephone and call this toll-free number. Day or night, 7 days a week. 

or from a TDD at 
The National Domestic Violence Hotline

    Questions To Ask Yourself
  • Does your partner shove, hit, shake or slap you?
  • Does your partner make light of the abuse, insist that it didn't happen, or shift the responsibility for his abusive behavior, blaming you for it?
  • Does your partner continually put you down, call you names, or humiliate you?
  • Does your partner intimidate you through looks or actions, destroy your property, or display weapons
  • Does your partner control what you do, who you see and talk to, where you go, limiting your involvement outside the relationship?
  • Are you made to feel guilty about the children, or has your partner threatened to take the children away?
    Questions To Ask For Friends/Family
  • Does she appear anxious, depressed, withdrawn, and reluctant to talk?
  • Does her partner criticize her in front of you, making remarks that make you feel uncomfortable when you're around the two of them?
  • Do you see or hear about repeated bruises, broken bones, or other injuries that reportedly result from "accidents"?
  • Does her partner try to control her every move, make her account for her time, and accuse her of having affairs?
  • Is she often late or absent from work, has she quit a job altogether, or does she leave social engagements early because her partner is waiting for her?

Each Month nearly 10,000 callers, victims of Domestic Violence, Their Families and Friends across the US receive crisis intervention, referrals, information and support in 137 different languages, from the National Domestic Violence Hotline So Please again I ask you, if you answered yes to many of the above questions please seek help. It could be a matter of life and death. 

Love is not suppose to hurt.